I know I keep saying that I’m going to try to get away from this… and God help me I really am. I’d really rather talk about Geek Culture and writing, but I keep getting sucked back in.
A little background on this post: I received an email criticizing talking points I made about the new Barbie movie from a long-time critic on my wall. This person has previously questioned me about the strength of my female protagonists… which is fine, I don’t mind a constructive argument, I’m just struggling with that one… especially if anyone has read about my character, General Xaphan.
Anyway, I got the feeling that this person is a feminist from some of the comments she’s made and I wanted to address some of the more egregious accusations. No, out of moral decency I will not be posting her name OR a full transcript of the email. That would be unethical in my book.
Let’s get started…
I don’t get it, what is your problem with the movie? (Barbie) It’s going to be a movie for little kids!
That’s fine, it’s a movie for little kids. I don’t have a problem with that, what I have a problem with is the executive who’s pulling the strings on this one, Amy Pascal. This person has a pretty extreme regressive leftist agenda, which is obvious from the Ghostbusters controversy. However, my problem stems more from the writer/leading lady, Amy Schumer.
This woman isn’t someone I consider a good role model for children. Go look at some of her other work, including her book. She’s openly admitted to (by her own definition, mind you) sexually assaulting a man, she’s been unbelievably abusive to her audience, indicating that she doesn’t care about them at all, and she’s been caught stealing jokes in the past.
Then how is she still famous?
Honestly there’s something to be said for being ‘in’ with the leftist media and culture. They protect their own very aggressively. This is how Hillary Clinton’s campaign survived as long as it did.
So that’s my major issue here. I mean seriously would you want Bill Cosby or Mel Gibson starring in kids movies?
Sigh… okay fine! However one, neither of these movies were very good and BOTH were before we knew what we now do. So I guess I would say, would you CURRENTLY want one of them starring in a kids’ movie? I think not.
So that’s my MAIN issue; Amy Schumer is not a good role model for kids.
As a feminist, I don’t get how you can be so opposed to us and how you can be so against equal rights!
I think you may have a skewed view of what feminism is. Let’s take a look at the definition of feminism:
Notice that part there, WOMEN’S RIGHTS on the basis of the equality of the sexes, not equal rights for all based on the equality of the sexes. That’s egalitarianism.
Now some of you may be saying to yourself that you don’t see the difference… well that’s because the media and feminism want you to believe that we live in a Patriarchy where EVERYTHING works in favor of men. The reality isn’t so easy. If you’re a man with children and you get divorced, in many states you’re automatically stuck paying both child support and alimony. (See New Jersey law)
One good example is a friend of mine that is a NJ State Trooper. He told me that he had to go arrest a ‘deadbeat dad’ one day. When they found the guy, he was living out of his pickup truck, filthy and emaciated because, thanks to alimony, he could barely house or feed himself. Later when he was called to testify at court, his ex-wife drove up in a brand new car with clothes that looked pretty expensive.
Do you think feminists would come out against that? No, of course they wouldn’t, because it works in there favor. It’s not equal treatment between the sexes at all, but because it tends to work in favor of women, they’re not about to protest it.
This adds a whole new layer of hypocrisy as, if you take a look at alimony, it was put in place because a wife was viewed as property and if divorced, it was still the man’s job to take care of his property. Fact.
So this is something you’d think women would be against, but because in the majority of cases, women are awarded alimony, they remain silent.
Another good example is a friend of mine who is currently serving jail time… because he refused to pay child support. Now I know what you’re thinking… he’s a deadbeat dad, etc. etc. Well… not so much. See two years after the child was born, his wife broke down and confessed that their child likely wasn’t his. A blood test confirmed it.
Devastated, he divorced her, but the court said that he still owed child support, despite a clear case of paternity fraud. He refused, quit his job and worked under the table, and eventually was locked up for it.
Statistics show when it comes to family court, a mother who prostitutes her child on the street for drugs has a better chance of getting custody after cleaning up her act than a straight shooting father ever would. The father is, was, and continues to be seen as expendable.
Again, not equality between the sexes, but because it’s to women’s advantage, the silence is deafening.
This is not equality and thus, feminism is NOT an equal rights movement, far from it. I don’t want to call it a gender superiority group because that’s getting into hyperbole, but that’s really what it is starting to come off looking like. This movement has really adopted more of a cult-like philosophy. I’ve known and have heard stories about women who have the audacity to question feminism’s stance on certain issues. They usually become the targets of abuse from other members of their chosen community, called gender traitors, among other things too vile for me to post here.
I mean what’s wrong with standing up against rape culture and unequal pay for women!?
Standing up against rape culture is fine. If you want to stand up and fight against the mentality of many of the male refugees in Europe, great. If you want to take a stand against what goes on in the Middle East and Asia, wonderful, I’m right there with you. However in some extreme cases, feminism has tried to make the case that we live in a rape culture here in the United States and cite what goes on in college campuses as proof.
This is obviously ludicrous.
As I said to another one of my readers on a previous thread…
The Rape Culture Myth, I take personal issue with. Most of the 3rd wave of feminism will tell you that rape on college campuses is a sort of rite of passage for guys, and because it is condoned by the campuses that cover it up, it’s something that is accepted in our society… except that this is anything but the truth.
Colleges profit based on reputation. If they lose that, they lose tuition and grants. So for one to be caught covering up rape… yeah that wouldn’t be good. Secondly the very insinuation or accusation of rape is enough to ruin a guy’s life, regardless of guilt. We’ve seen cases where women come forward later and admit to lying about it, and the guy is powerless to collect any damages. When rapes are reported, they are investigated and zealously prosecuted and the lives of the perpetrator are justly ruined even after prison.
Rape culture is where it’s legal to rape your spouse, or there are no laws protecting people from it. AKA, most of the countries that these refugees are coming from… adding another layer of hypocrisy to this whole mess!
Rape culture is also, in my opinion when a man is held down, drugged, or intoxicated, raped, and then told by society that its his own fault for being a weakling and he’ll be shunned if he reports it… and then if the rapist get’s pregnant, she can successfully sue for child support… oh $h^t… that is the U.S.
… great… so I’ve defeated my own argument. So perhaps the rape culture exists, but the myth is in how it is portrayed by the SJWs.
So yeah, it’s a convoluted mess. You may notice that I underlined the word ‘guy.’ That’s because the treatment of men in sexual assault cases is treated much differently than women. If women commit rape or sexual assault, society pretty much makes men believe that it’s their own fault for being too weak or stupid to prevent it and that their reputation will take a major hit if they report it. This is a lot for guys to handle given how society treats both sexes.
Secondly… do I even need to touch on the statutory rape sentences for more vs. women? Take a look at the sentencing in LITERALLY any case where a woman teacher slept with a male student. In almost every case, the woman get’s either a suspended sentence, probation, community service, etc. THEY ALMOST NEVER GET JAIL TIME!
As a farther of boys entering the public school system, this worries me…
Again, silence from the feminist crowd, why? Because it works in favor of the woman.
Now about the unequal pay gap, yes it exists, but not for the reasons you think…
This is a very lengthy topic, so instead, I’d invite you to watch this video which details the problems with the whole idea of a wage gap:
This is a very good report on the data points of the wage gap.
I mean are you a misogynist or a racist??? You’re clearly a white guy so… I guess maybe an MRA?
Okay, if you tell me to check my privilege (she didn’t, to be fair), I’m going to metaphorically smack you in the mouth.
For anyone who must know, I’m an Irish Catholic Boy (which technically makes me non-white from traditional racist standpoints) from Mission Hill Roxbury in Boston, LOOK IT UP, specifically what the place was like back in the 80s, THEN try that statement again!
Sorry… just had to get that out. misogyny is pretty much off of my insult list and gone from my vocabulary…
Because I don’t subscribe to the social justice calendar.
Nor do I believe in the validity of identity politics.
Also, why bring race into this? Why? You are aware that feminism was started by white women, yes? White women who in the beginning tried to exclude black women because they didn’t want their movement being confused with anti-slavery. (See what I did there?)
Also… honestly I don’t know what an MRA is. I’ve heard that term before, but until today didn’t care. I had to google it to discover that MRA stands for ‘Men’s Rights Activist.’ Honestly the only reason that I’m even aware of that team is because it’s somehow part of the war cry of feminism. I hear feminists use the term all the time… and ONLY feminists. They seem to think that MRA’s are some kind of boogeyman.
This is yet another thing that I don’t understand, shouldn’t feminists and MRA (if they even exist in this form) be working together towards some kind of humanist movement?
Okay, look… I don’t hate feminists. I don’t. I don’t particularly care for what they stand for in many cases, but I appreciate the roots and where the whole movement came from. That does not mean that I have to agree with them, nor does it make me a sexist or anything like that.
I don’t like labeling, but if you were to put a gun to my head, I’d have to throw my support behind humanists and egalitarians, and I mean TRUE humanists and egalitarians. The people who want actual equality. These are the African Americans who see things like Affirmative Action as offensive because they can get by on their own merits. Successful women who see feminism as insulting because they got by on their own and did very well for themselves, but feminists view them as a sort of gender version of ‘Uncle Tom.’
Feminism, identity politics, and social justice movements survive based on the belief that they are needed. They survive based on the belief that the group that they rally for is too weak to survive without their support, despite evidence to the contrary. Unfortunately, there will be no equality between the races or sexes, because these groups push the divide further and further. I remember a black student at a college campus who wrote a paper on racial equality got jeered for dispelling several myths plaguing his community. Upon being verbally attacked on it, he published a statement in the local newspaper, calling the Black Rights movement on his campus as among the most racist exclusion groups he’d ever seen.
Anyway that’s where I stand on all of this. Sorry, but I make it a point to respond to my readers as much as possible and, for whatever faults she may have, this person has clearly read some of my work.
To that person, please pick up and read either Damnation or Soul Siphon, you may be surprised by what you see. I hope this helps you understand where I’m coming from.
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